I'd love some opinions on birth control..?

Your brother was very inconsiderate with what he said. You need to see an OB/GYN. Talk about your problems and the side effects of the pill. Personally I think it would be a wise decision to go on the pill. Make sure the Dr. tells you when to start the pills. Its not always on Sunday as some people on this forum say. It has to do with your period. Its been so long since my wife was on the pill I forgot it she started taking them on the first day of her period or when he period ended, usually about day 5